Finding Support – It Might be Harder Than You Think

  • Possible Pat
  • February 21, 2017

One of the most important things for someone who is losing weight, especially if you are needing to lose as much weight as I did, is support. This simple concept can make or break your goals and can be harder to get than you would think.

When people don’t have a solid support system they can easily lose motivation and fall right back into their old habits without even realizing it. Those who don’t find their support system are much more likely to fail and never achieve their goals.

In this post, you’ll learn…

>   How your life will change as you start your journey

>   Why finding the right support is hard to find

>   Where you can find support that will help you lose weight

At 605 pounds I made the decision that my life needed to change in a drastic way if I wanted to live to be an old man. I was already at risk of dying from an early heart attack and having my doctor tell me that scared me enough to really make a change.

I knew that I needed to lose weight. I didn’t know how much I needed to lose or how long it would take, but I knew that in order to do this, I would need to change many things in my life.

When we first think about losing weight, and even incorporating exercise into our routine, we don’t think of how it will affect our social interactions or how the people in our lives will impact our goals. In reality, it affects our lives in every way and changes how you relate to the people around you. You quickly discover who is there to support you, who isn’t, and how important that support is.

How Does Your Life Change When Losing Weight?

I knew that my new diet wasn’t going to let me go out as freely as I had before. I could no longer go out and eat, drink, and party with everyone else.

The problem was that the people I was hanging around with were doing the very things that got me into this situation. We all went out and ate and drank the same things. But now, I wanted to change and they didn’t. Many of these people may not be overweight, but they didn’t want to change their lifestyle to accommodate me. And so, I stopped going out with them because I knew that if I did, I would end up eating and drinking the things that I shouldn’t be. I didn’t have that kind of control yet.

These same people that I hung out with and weren’t ready for that change in their life, also weren’t ready to go the gym when I was. As I began working out and going to the gym, they were doing something else and it wasn’t with me.

What ended up happening was, I lost a lot of people I used to be friends with and that sucked. But, I made new friends. I met new people who were on the same page as I was and were interested in the same lifestyle I was now living.

Why is Support Hard to Find?

When you weigh as much as I did and you begin to change your lifestyle, people don’t see you as trying to do better for yourself. All they see is another fat guy on another diet trying to lose weight… again.

They don’t actually see you losing the weight and hitting your goals.

Diets don’t work, and they always fail because they are not long term. You have to make a change in your lifestyle. You have to change the way you live, the way you eat, the way you move and sometimes the people you associate with.

Where Can You Find Support?

As you change your lifestyle, you quickly learn who your support group is. Your support group is the people that stick by your side and encourage and motivate you to continue. These are the people who, instead of trying to get you to do what they are doing, want you to continue the new lifestyle you have chosen to pursue. These are the people that truly care because they want you to live longer, not because they want you there as entertainment.

These people that stick by your side, and the new people you meet along the way, are the people you will need to turn to when times get rough and when you are left asking yourself, “Can I do this” and “Is this even worth it?” You will need people there to tell you that you can do it and it is worth it. You need people behind you to push you forward, keep you on track, and hold you accountable. These are the people that will celebrate with you as you hit each of your goals.

What is funny, is I now have the very same people who didn’t think I could lose the weight and who were not yet ready to change their lifestyles back when I needed the support, asking me to help them. They now see my success and realize that if I can do it, they can too. In a way, just by being successful I have been able to provide support to others by providing motivation and inspiration to those who felt like it was impossible.

Discovering who makes up your support system can be difficult at first, and it may take you some time, but the quicker you know who your support is and who is looking out for your best interest, the quicker you will achieve your goals.

About Possible Pat

Hi, I'm Pasquale Brocco and I've lost A LOT of weight. When I started my journey to lose weight, I weighed 605 pounds. After visiting the doctor, I realized I had to make a change. I started with a simple plan and within 60 days, I lost 100 lbs. So far, I've lost over 307 pounds. Now, I'm sharing a simple message with you, "Anything is possible." If you can put on the weight, you can lose the weight.



This is truly inspirational, everything you say is so true. There is no BS around what you say it is what I felt like day to day but since is started my journey I feel so good and I have my support network around me.
Keep it up Pat!


Hi Pat, thank you for your inspirational story. I am 47yrs, only 5’2″ and weigh approx 180kg. It’s very hard for me to drop the weight and makes my job very difficult (support worker with troubled kids). Running at the moment is impossible. Walking is a definite struggle (especially the breathing). And that’s only the beginning of all my pains and problems. Aside from me, I am so happy for you having worked so hard and getting well deserved results. You are so right in saying anything is possible. For me, my biggest hurdle is getting over myself, the shame. My husband is my support. I just need more accountability without going public. Well thank you again Pat. I truly am so happy for you ?

p/s please keep my comment private, not public. Thanks.


This is great!

I have tried losing weight for all my life, and recently (within the last 5 years) has been the most difficult. I have burned one major bridge because she cannot keep supporting me while I struggled to commit to losing weight (she was being my own personal trainer (as a friend not as a professional)), and it hurt her that I gave up on myself so many times.

I want to be successful in this, so I need to focus on the people who still support me, as I try to climb this mountain.

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